Those working moms pffff, someone else taking care of their children? Why have children at all if you are going to spend so much time away from them? Oh, its okay working moms manage to spend on average 81 minutes per day with the offspring – good going hotshot.
Yuck, stay at home moms, cooking, cleaning, doing nothing but looking after their children? How boring, sitting at home being supported by the other half, not using the brains they were given? What kind of role model are they?
It’s a minefield.
I was an FTWM, now I’m a SAHM, the only difference is I don’t feel like I am scrabbling around to find extra time, I don’t feel the need to buy eldest extra things to make up for the fact I wasn’t around. I carried guilt around, I wore it daily, like a coat. Now I have too much time, and I carry a pang of new guilt. This guilt is because I AM at home, and my children see me here, not out working hard for their futures. Instead, they see me making endless dinners, cleaning & all the other trappings of SAHM-ness. So guilt of leaving my babies with someone who will never love them the way I do, or the guilt of not showing them a working mother. How to balance… How to? How? HOW!?
I’m not sure we can ever get it right… But while we ponder this,, we still do the best we can with the tools we are given. Which is a pair of boobs & a sort of maternal nature. If you look at it that way, work or not they are getting a pretty good deal these children.
