All parents know that their child is going to grow up and there’s nothing that they can do about it. However, most parents tend to try and ignore this fact the best they can for as long as possible. After all, the idea of your child getting older and becoming more independent is exciting but it’s also seriously scary for a lot of parents. However, there’s nothing you can do to stop it so the best you can do is just to make sure that you’re able to help guide them through those stages in their life. With that in mind, here are some of the common milestones your child will go through as they get older and how you can handle them.
Spending time away from you
For the first several years of your child’s life, there’s a decent chance that they will spend pretty much every single day with you. Sure, there will be times where you’ll have a night off and when they’re at school you’ll spend more of the day apart. However, most parents are secure that their child will always come home at the end of the day. However, as they get older they may want to start sleeping over with friends or staying away from home for longer stretches of time. This can be seriously scary for any parent but you’ve got to remember that it’s an essential part of growing up and something your child really needs.
Ah, first love. Something that pretty much all parents find themselves dreading. It’s going to be dramatic. There will be tears, there will probably be heartbreak, they will be convinced that they’re more in love than anyone has ever been in the history of the world. That all sounds pretty familiar, right? We’ve all been there and the best thing that you can do is just to let it run its course and be there as a shoulder to cry on when you’re needed. If you try and get in the way, you’re just going to risk driving a wedge between you and your child.
Heading off to university and moving out for the first time is one of the biggest moments in anyone’s life, and it’ll be a pretty big moment in your life too. The best thing that you can do is to make sure that you’re there to help with the practicalities like trying to find private student accommodation without becoming too overbearing. Of course, it’s always a good idea to let them know that you’ll always be there for them.
Of course, the reality about all of these milestones, as well as plenty of others, is that they’re going to depend pretty heavily on you and your kids. The kind of relationship you have with them as well as the kind of kids that they are will have a huge impact on how you all navigate these and other milestones together. One of the best things that you can do is just trust your child. After all, they’ve got a great role model.