Abusive Relationships can be hard to spot, especially when you’re in the midst of one. Here are some of the top signs that you might be in an abusive relationship. If you feel as though you’re in danger, call the police immediately, or leave and stay with friends/family. Your safety should come first, so if you’re worried that you could get hurt, please put yourself before your partner.
If you partner is constantly jealous of your relationship with friends, or accuses you of cheating on them, it’s an early sign of aggression. This can lead to controlling behavior, such as monitoring your phone calls and where you go to with friends.
Jealousy and aggression can lead to isolating behavior. For example, if your partner does not want you to see your friends or even family. This is extremely isolating and should not be tolerated. You are in charge of your own life, and are able to see and visit whoever you wish to.
Does your partner set unrealistic expectations of you? Asking you to lose weight, do certain things for them around the house, or asking you to act or dress a certain way is controlling behavior. Not only this, but it creates unrealistic expectations of you, which is highly unfair and abusive.
If your partner makes you feel guilty and unwanted for everything, it could be a sign of abuse. Are you the fault of their mistakes? Perhaps they burnt the food in the oven, is this immediately your fault? Or perhaps they got into trouble at work and blamed you at home. This is extremely unfair and shouldn’t be tolerated.
This may be tough to talk about, but if your partner forces you into sex, or into a sexual activity that you do not want to be a part of, then this is a form of abusive behavior. The same can be said if your partner is dominant in the bedroom when you have not consented for them to be.
This is the number one rule of a relationship: if they put their hands on you, leave them. You are not a punching bag, and you do not deserve to be to be put in a position where you can be hurt. If you have been hurt by your partner, please know that you are not alone. People want to help you, such as friends and family. You can also call for help if you need it.
If you have just come out of an abusive relationship or marriage, you can receive help. CICA UK act on your behalf in order to claim compensation from the CICA government scheme. Although you can claim yourself, this way is good if you would just like to put your past behind you and have someone do all the hard work for you. You may not get much, but it could be just what you need to make a new start and life for yourself after abuse.
Guest post by Gina Kay Daniel