Self Care – Lux Gift Edit

Self Care has been sweeping the nation as the thing to do. To get your mind, body and soul all in a great space. How we do that varies from person to person, for me it’s really simple. I run a very hot bath with the bubbles or bath bomb I’ve reserved for this very moment, I hit play on my ‘Relax’ playlist, my bed is made, my towels are warming by the radiator. I light my candles, all scented with something floral and sweet. I use the Balmain shampoo  that smells amazing, and a leave in conditioner while I soak. I make sure that I have time to use the…

It’s only a sick bug, it won’t last forever.

For the last week or so, my two youngest have had one of those nasty sick bugs. A mixture of sleep, vomit, and crying has littered my days and nights. I’ve washed more towels in one day than I normally need to in a week. I watch them, laying on the couch, pale and still. They are slowly getting better now, but it swept them off their feet. I can’t lie, it’s pretty exhausting. The broken sleep, the continuous running one or the other to the bathroom, and then the eventual giving up and putting towels down wherever they might be sleeping. But this thing happens, it’s like a switch.…

The Spring Home Edit

I don’t know about you but when the mornings get a little brighter, it’s raining a bit less and it’s starting to warm up I know it’s time to pack away the huge blankets and darker coloured pillows and add some spring colours and textures. Going Green One of the very first things I do, is get in some new plants. Although we have some indoor plants all year round, it’s nice to bring in that extra green boost – cheers me up every morning. One of my favourite things to do is pick some new plant pots. Simple but so effective! Smell of the Season Secondly, I love to swap…

5 Top Tips to Quit Smoking Cigarettes

Tips for stopping smoking will always be handy, even if you haven’t decided to quit, or you’ve quit before and gone back. There are a few things that could help you on your way to being cigarette free for good. Start by looking at the periods during the day you might usually have a smoke. Break time at work, while you are having a drink with your friends? Prepare for those moments by having chewing gum, or a book – something to keep you occupied during your normal habit routine. Treat yourself to a new perfume or scent – if you no longer smoke you can smell the perfume properly –…

What Now? – His Thoughts.

As mentioned in my last post, I asked my Husband to write something, because there are two sides to everything. __________________________________________________________________________________________________ So, let’s just get this out the way and say it: “I crossed a line which I should not have crossed.” I have a recollection of how things transpired and so does she. And we could argue about what did or did not happen. Did I push her aside as I stormed out the room? Yes, and yes I did not give her time to get out-of-the-way. Did I want to throw something? Yes, and I threw the chair, wildly. And did my frustration converge onto her when she…

Sunshine After The Rain (Or – A Post After The Comments)

I spent a large part of yesterday reading comments from people who don’t know me or my husband, talking about the original blog post and the circumstances I had written about. That is a good thing, even the ones that perhaps were not the kindest in either of our favours were good to read, getting differing opinions on a topic is healthy, but one comment stood out to me. It talked about how relationships are complex things. I wanted to reply to the comments that were left, I wanted to explain that I actually do take responsibility for my part to play, I don’t feel like I am the innocent party.…

Today I am Half, Tomorrow I will be Whole

If you read yesterdays post, you know that the weekend was less than fun. I am in the midst of not knowing if it’s something that I can forgive, but I know that I won’t forget it – is that just as bad? Although one might say that the incident wasn’t life changing, I think it is something that changes your perception of other people and through doing that, changes you. Is this what they call a pivotal moment? Could it just be a catalyst for changing other things? Could it be that, to be your true self, you need to have your core shaken. Is it that in order…

He’s Not a Bad Man, But I Do Have Bruises.

I think that title really sums up my weekend. I think this needs the full story, not a condensed blog version. I will start first thing on Saturday morning. I wake up, I hear the chatter of the kids, P has youth club at 10, it’s 9.07 – shit. My husband had offered to take her, as I had been out the night before. He didn’t get up, and due to a cough was sleeping in the spare room. I decided to just take her and not wake him up, until just before we had to leave. I asked him – “Why did you turn off your alarm?” “Dunno, I…

Birmingham’s Top 5 Pizza Places

If you are hankering for a hot sizzling slice in Birmingham today, look no further: here are your top 5 places to hit up and satisfy your pizza cravings. La Vera Wood Oven Pizzeria Voted one of the ten best budget cafes and restaurants in Birmingham by the Guardian, La Vera Wood Oven Pizzeria offers a quality dining experience and a trendy environment. Nothing beats a wood oven pizza, bubbly dough and a variety of toppings to choose from. With the fireplace as the focal point, the environment is airy, inviting and family friendly. Whether it is date night or family pizza night, La Vera is the perfect place to…

Keep Writing, Keep Sharing. 

There are so many people trying to make a name for themselves as writers, big time bloggers, or aiming for a book deal. It can so often feel like you’re shouting into the wind. Tweeting your links to no one. But don’t stop. When you check your readership and find only one person reading, and you get disheartened. Don’t stop. That one person has come to your page to see what you’re saying. They’ve googled and found your piece. Your words may have landed in someone’s lap when they most needed it. It could be your post about cleaning cupboards, it could be about a new lipstick colour, it could…

Can I Just be a Parent Without a Pigeonhole, Please?

For the last few years there has been a dramatic rise in parent labelling. Like we don’t have a fuckload of enough to deal with already. The Ten Parents You’ll Meet at Playgroups The 5 Top Mummy Types The 10 Dads You’ll Meet at Kids Parties The 12 Parents You’ll Meet in Hell You know the type of article right? I don’t hate them, I often read them and find myself wondering who the fuck I am. WHERE DO I FIT? In this pigeonholing hellfire of parenting, then suddenly I realised. I do what I want. *Sharpe inhale* – I mean that I am sick of parenting categories, I am…

The Sweet Art of Doing Fuck All

So it turns out I have been accidentally doing some Hygge business for years, only I’ve just been referring to it as ‘I’m doing fuck all’ or ‘I’m being a lazy bastard today’. What does this involve? Well, for me it’s been very simple to fully embrace the heart of Hygge. It’s supposed to be doing whatever it is that makes you feel comfort, y’know, warm and fuzzy. Cosy. Being slow, having some blankets and stuff, being purposeful. It’s about feeding your spirit… or something like that. I’ve recently read it’s like turning your life into an art form. But, how have I been so good at Hygge without these…